December 20, 2008 – Saturday
FEMINISM FULL CIRCLE…
Category: Romance and Relationships
Just occured to me there is a reason a lodda men think a lodda women are gold diggers an vice versa with women thinkin men are sex maniacs…
it’s a primal thing…we were created amongst other things to go forth an multiply…a man wants a good lookin honey for great offspring…an a woman wants a good provider cos pregnancy an child-rearing makes you vulnerable an dependent!
I did a course with about 250 other women in Berkeley California in the 80’s called WOMEN, SEX AN POWER…there was an equivalent one for men, it was cool, although I spent most of it on a cot cos I was pregnant an sleepy! Absorbed most of it by osmosis but the bottom line is CELEBRATE OUR DIFFERENCES…
I went through my radical feminist thing at University long time ago…Germaine Greer went to same uni an urban myth legend had it she made 3 male lovers meet her in the union bar with the money for an abortion…after she had collected she told them all April Fool now go buy some condoms arse holes!! The pill was the new thing an guys were not into swimming in wellies….
By chance if there is such a thing two ‘radical feminists’ one gay moved into my uni digs an took me off to a few righteous events all singin I’ll Survive by Gloria Gaynor an gettin pissed or stoned…I derided men with the best of them for a while, but slowly realised that almost every one of them had had negative experiences with the opposite sex whether as children or adults, an were somehow stuck in the bitterness….
I had been abused myself an had a catalogue of reasons for hatred an bitterness but….
Wait a minute I thought….I LOVE men! Don’t understand them, hold some in awe, others in contempt, wish I had brothers especially a big one which Mum informed me was not possible (pre-blended family days)….an I’m not quite ready to jump ship!
I moved in quite an artsy crowd, theatre film etc., an the braver ones announced they were BI sexual which seemed a nice compromise but I still couldn’t quite rise to it! Bravest I got in those crazy experimental days was a drunken snog with a lead singer rock chick on my 22nd birthday…unfortunately my boyfriend at the time saw it an poor chap don’t think he ever got over it!!
Anyway, let me not get into some mad debate on nature nurture gay stuff…some of my best friends are gay/Jewish/black haha etc etc…
My point is can we get over ourselves thinkin it’s not cool for a guy to admire beauty an a lady to check the finances??? Esther in the Bible spent a whole year preparing an beautifying herself to go in to the King! King David banished one of his wives (no I’m not into polygamy) for life cos she laughed at him when he was dancing half naked…
Kind of a shame we no longer have our Dads an big brothers check guys out on our behalf…are your intentions honourable an how do you intend to provide etc! My BACHELOR great uncle who had a 50 year service medal from the OLD NOBLE I.R.A. an his spinster sister were terrific match-makers in the Glen of Aherlow at the beginning of the 20th century…they did it mostly on adjoining land an farms through matrimony!
An I like that Southern thing that used to go on in America where women were unashamedly women, where beauty and charm were PhD subjects, an where men just knew they had to find the hero in themselves to be counted worthy…oh Rhett an Scarlett sigh….
So c’mon you guys if you want a cheer leader in your life, a help meet, a delightful frothy secure in her femininity bundle of contradiction an delight…get your wallet out!! It’s primal…you Tarzan me Jane! Me vulnerable you boss!!
THIS IN NO WAY PRECLUDES WOMEN MYSELF INCLUDED FROM BEING STRONG INTELLIGENT CREATIVE POWERFUL MULTI TASKING DYNAMOS…
Think Germaine Greer after years of leading the sisters in self-realisation bra-burning revolt…fell hopelessly in love aged 55 an discovered in herself the coy giggling soft eyed doe we all secretly know we are…
POST SCRIPT…to any truly suffering sisters RUN! If he hit you once, cheated on you once, abused you or your children emotionally physically mentally once…made you feel less than your true self once, bullied you once…well, I personally believe once can be a tumultuous error where forgiveness can be considered as an option…but twice? A pattern? Would see me HIT THE ROAD…RUNNING…no matter what…no matter where…pray an angels will guide you xxx
love an stuff….Sister Angela!
FEMNINISM, FULL-CIRLCE
