There is a biblical format for conflict resolution. First talk with the person one on one. Check. Second if not resolved talk with 2 or 3 witnesses present….mediation secular check….third appeal to the church….check, his Pastor didn’t want to get involved, awkward….FINALLY IF NOT RESOLVED TURN HIM OVER TO THE WORLD / SATAN TO ‘TEACH’ HIM!
There is another scripture says believers should try not to sue each other rather resolve things internally ….tried and failed. There is another says Be peaceable with others AS FAR AS IT IS POSSIBLE….I ran out of peaceable I am sad and angry
My sons’ Father my ex husband PAUL DISNEY didn’t work apparently for SEVEN YEARS since the Construction Industry crashed in 2007…..he contributed THIRTY EURO weekly towards his teenage sons. Plus more here and there mostly from his new wife or her generous family to my embarrassment…. He started working again a few months ago like many are finding work again …..my eldest asked to live with him and his third wife for the summer….my son had to wait 3 weeks for them to decide if that was ok…then 2 more weeks for them to be ready….then another week before they would give him a door key. He had to stay elsewhere one weekend because they wanted romance time after working….he had to stay elsewhere another few days because they lost their cat and step mum didn’t feel like having him or Jamie around….he had to finally admit defeat with the LIVING WITH DAD experiment and come home because Dad with his lovely wages an Stepmum were going on holiday for 2 weeks in Spain (boys haven’t had a holiday in 2 years) and said there was no point in Josh staying in ‘their’ flat because the electric meter would need feeding and he didn’t cook much….they took his key back with some excuse about someone going in to feed the cat….they left Josh stranded with his car stuck in the garage with a bill PAUL owed in child support but ‘couldn’t’ pay because he and wife had bought a new car for themselves…..
My ex has broken EVERY financial agreement set out in our divorce including signing away for decades an inheritance that was due to the boys that would have helped Josh with car and University and pay for Jamie’s eye surgery in America…..we got divorced in England and I can’t afford to re instruct solicitors and fight in court especially as the boys are going to be finished full time education in a year or so, well, 5 with Jamie….hubby an stepmom planning taking boys on a ‘family’ holiday to Switzerland at Christmas. I risk being the bad guy by SUSPENDING ACCESS to my precious sons who are of so little value to their Father except for bragging rights and show casing when convenient…..
I bought my house to leave something for my children. I have not had a holiday for almost 5 years. I am about to take my car off the road for lack of funds. AND MEANWHILE EX HUBBY IS AN USHER AT HIS CHURCH welcoming everyone to the house of God.
“But if any man does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. ” 1 Timothy 5:8
Provide.
1. Physical: food, clothing, shelter, I Tim. 5:8.
2. Spiritual. Cf. Example of Christ, Eph.5:26-27.
. Principle area of failure for Fathers. Too often abdicated to wife.
1) Result: Impression that Christianity is not manly. Children learn by example. Concluding that Christianity is for women and children.
Patrick Moynihan made this conclusion: “From the wild Irish slums of the 19^th century eastern seaboard, to the riot-torn suburbs of Los Angeles, there is one unmistakable lesson in history: A community that allows a large number of young men to grow up in broken families, dominated by women, never acquiring any stable relationship to male authority, never acquiring any rational expectations about the future – that community asks for and gets chaos.”
b. Children with engaged fathers show greater initiative and demonstrate self-control. They also tend to be economically self-sufficient.
c. Boys with engaged fathers tend to be good fathers as well. After all, they had someone to model their behavior after.
‘engaged’ fathers do not have to live in the same home if a marriage has irretrievably broken down…..but Macdonalds and trainers and a few quid here and there DOES NOT A FATHER MAKE and will raise kids who have no idea how to provide for their OWN children in the future as they have never had it modelled for them by an absent and irresponsible man who has no conscience about abandoning them to either latch key living with a mother trying to work and parent or welfare poverty upbringing with Fathers even asking for handouts from that when they have their children to VISIT
I will NOT have my sons repeat the sins of their Father…..please HELP ME GOD 🙂
love from your daughter
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Isaiah 54
they deserve…betterthey deserve…better